The supposed myth
People say lay down yourself and love others more..
What can be wrong in preparing yourself to give and receive that which we most desire and which is the greatest, LOVE? Is it possible to offer someone mango when you do not have mango? Is it possible that you enter Maths exam hall and decide to write English on your answer script and pass the exams? How can one be happy with someone who is not meeting his/her desire and yet wants him/her to stay?
In counseling with persons with Vitiligo, the greatest desire of women has been to find love and I have always asked, is it possible to find love and love as you are body mind and spirit without being filled with love yourself? I usually get an answer, I know getting someone who loves me will change things and I usually ask someone who will love you and expect you to love him back. Its true that there are rare men that will find one attractive even in that situation and decides to help build her up, how many of them are out there and how many have you met? A lady told me that she cannot be happy and cannot be open to a relationship till she repigments fully and I asked her
She told me that she will be alive for it to happen, but cannot just think of exposing her hand to anyone now. For me, I cannot deny myself the happiness, I know it is not easy to get there, but with the will to change, step by step efforts and the mirror game I discussed below, we will be getting into it. Don't get me wrong, Love is a beautiful thing which everyone really needs to experience genuinely in their lifetime. My question is, is it about the opposite sex? I have been privileged to talk also with the married who would usually tell me my spouse has been very supportive, but I just can't handle the psychological aspects especially when dealing with the public.
This goes to show that the opposite sex is actually not the solution, but self. What about who we really are and what we want to achieve in life? My findings and experience, when you find that self-love, its beautiful, you glow with so much love for everyone around you, you judge less who is staring and who is not staring, you don't remember the comments, you are open to love and to change and everything is beautiful. This self-love can only be effective when you have accepted yourself wholly.
When you Accept and Love yourself and live it, the problem is more than 50% solved, it's a simple life, let's stop making it complicated. Believe in your dreams, confess and affirm what you believe and what you want! Love and accept yourself wholly so you can live better and Love all around you and greatly Love that special person with great and unadulterated Love!
Love is a beautiful thing, it begins with you!